A younger man came into E A yesterday afternoon. He was quite particular about the quality of the sofa that he wanted, having been very disappointed with his existing one… so he intentionally came to our store.
In speaking with me, he began to understand how overwhelming it can be to have so many choices in a custom setting; but he also seemed slightly distracted. A random topic would come up and he would go off on a tangent, asking me rather qualifying questions. In the hour that I worked with him, I learned much about him…and the differences between us. He didn’t realize that he had proverbially “struck out” with me early on when he failed the “Edith Ann test” (if you don’t know who she is, you probably wouldn’t understand my childhood. π
So he kept asking me questions. It was almost comical how he kept trying to understand that I don’t watch much television…”you mean not today when you work, but you would watch a lot on your day off…”…and I would still admit with a smile, “no, not so much”. And, not to slam my friends a decade or so younger than me because blanket statements never apply to everyone, but he is of the age/generation where crude language is considered impressive and “hip”…but I’m not impressed. And he asked me if I was being honest about my opinion on his choice of fabric for the sofa and I told him that I wouldn’t lie about that…he’s in sales…and he admitted that he would. He believes Integrity is expendable; yet he added, “it must be nice to have Integrity”……again, I replied with a smile, “Yes, it is…” Then I sold him a fabulous sofa and sent him on his way.
But thinking back on that encounter, as a single woman and a mother of three precious children who I pray will find loving partners one day, that conversation was almost haunting in it’s tragedy…and I was gently reminded:
I teased him when he asked about the “retro 50’s/60’s look” of one of our room displays…that “what is old is new again” and that I have come to personally appreciate that…but some of the best things about the “old” aren’t valued as much today…
My grandparents valued Honesty and Integrity, and good old-fashioned hard work. They had routines to their day that kept them active into their twilight years…interests and activities that benefited themselves and those around them. They valued Faith and feared God, choosing to live a life pleasing to Him…if those Values are considered “Vintage”…how tragic for us all…
“My son, do not forget my law, But let your heart keep my commands; For length of days and long life And peace they will add to you. Let not mercy and truth forsake you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart, And so find favor and high esteem In the sight of God and man.” (Proverbs 3:1-4 NKJV)
“Show me Your ways, O Lord; Teach me Your paths. Lead me in Your truth and teach me, For You are the God of my salvation; On You I wait all the day. Remember, O Lord, Your tender mercies and Your lovingkindnesses, For they are from of old. All the paths of the Lord are mercy and truth, To such as keep His covenant and His testimonies. For Your nameβs sake, O Lord, Pardon my iniquity, for it is great. Who is the man that fears the Lord? Him shall He teach in the way He chooses. He himself shall dwell in prosperity, And his descendants shall inherit the earth. The secret of the Lord is with those who fear Him, And He will show them His covenant. My eyes are ever toward the Lord, For He shall pluck my feet out of the net. Keep my soul, and deliver me; Let me not be ashamed, for I put my trust in You. Let integrity and uprightness preserve me, For I wait for You.” (Psalm 25:4-6, 10-15, 20, 21 NKJV)